SNP: “What I Wore To Fall In Love”
“Today, the day of the date, I cry for six or seven hours. We are to meet at Spain, then go to the Jane; I can’t. Still, just fifty-some minutes after the promised time, I turn the corner from Sixth onto West 13th in: my number one comfort item, a light grey sweater that’s stitched like a sweatshirt and made by a label named Cardigan; the shortest skirt I can find, which is my roommate’s and even shorter on me; a pair of $30 sunglasses from Prince Street; the badass sandals. To further hide the crying I’ve circled my eyes with smudgy, ink-blue eyeliner, like the total on a diner receipt.”
The rest HERE
"One has to create a world in which one can live."
"We also write to heighten our own awareness of life. We write to lure and enchant and console others. We write to serenade our loves. We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospection. We write, like Proust, to render all of it eternal, and to persuade ourselves that it is eternal. We write to be able to transcend our life, to reach beyond it. We write to teach ourselves to speak with others, to record the journey into the labyrinth. We write to expand our world when we feel strangled, or constricted, or lonely… When I don’t write, I feel my world shrinking…It should be a necessity, as the sea needs to heave, and I call it breathing."
Wise words from my interview with Melissa Auf der Maur:
Have you noticed in your life, both artistic and personal, that that kind of kismet happens often? That you can almost count on it at this point?
It’s all I’ve ever known. I’m the product of a one night stand, so that’s a pretty timing-related thing too so maybe I just came into the world like that. [Laughs] It’s definitely been a huge, huge part of every major step in my life, yes.
As a result, are more stressful times alleviated simply from having the lived experience of recurring kismet.
Absolutely. Put it this way, even in my most burnt-out times of exhaustion and doubtful moments, I’m blessed with not getting depressed. I get tired, sure. I get stressed, but there is not one day when I don’t wake up and know why I’m here. In my years of mingling with all walks of life and having at one point in the ’90s when heroin was very very popular — which I hear it is again, which is fucking terrible — but there was this very wise heroin addict who once told me that the difference between me and him is that I wake up in the morning and I’m connected to the universe and I believe it, and I believe in my role in it, and he wakes up and he doesn’t have that connection and works to make that connection whether it’s through drugs or through a drug rehabilitation program. Because I believe in a world that’s much bigger than the tiny little human life that we have, I think that’s what gets the stars aligned.
For young women who are creating art, be it in film, or as writers, or musicians, what would you say is important to keep in mind when struggling to keep the momentum going beyond those initial moments of inspiration?
What’s kept me going is that I’ve really felt no other choice but to do it. In my case, there’s a profound, burning furnace inside me; I guess it’s called my heart. That’s why I always say, “Follow your fucking heart.” Primarily I always say to trust one’s instincts and one’s relationships. I really go the personal, intuitive, and spiritual route of things. Meanwhile you need to be a really hard worker. No offense to men but I do know this: women tend to work a little harder. In fact, even in Hudson right now, some of the most incredible talents I see are women.
Can you elaborate on the relationship aspect of creating work?
Building relationships is so key. For example, all my girlfriends who I came up with in my 20s, we’re all young mothers now and it’s really hard to see each other but, did we ever invest some major time in our friendships when we were in our 20s. And now those friendships, even if I only see them once or twice a year, they saw me coming of age and they knew my down moments and my up moments. Women friendships in their 20s is really, really important. Finding your community of women is key.
Entire interview HERE
interior with fireplace, 2012
Last lines: “And there stood Philip watching them both; and the girl jealousy watching Philip. No one noticed Kate with her suitcase. So she picked it up, let herself unobserved out of the flat, and made her way to the bus stop and so home.”
"The first thing I do in the morning is check my phone; because my phone is my alarm, it’s in my hand when I wake up, and I look at it right away. So sometimes the first thing I focus in is, like, a sale at West Elm, and sometimes it’s a stressful situation at work. But really, what emergency would be happening over email. So many fake emergencies! All it takes is one real emergency to remind you how many fake emergencies you have."